MOODINESS
The Cause
In relationships all behaviour, both positive and negative can be seen as forms of communication. Sulking and acting moodily are negative examples where we or our partner decide to withdraw our love and feelings of connection to show our displeasure. While it may indicate to a partner that something is wrong, it it is ineffective because it prevents any resolution of the original problem.
If we choose to withdraw from our partner through moodiness, we are effectively saying - I am unhappy and I am going to punish you for that. This attack then causes them to withdraw.
The Way Through
Avoid any temptation to go into a sulk or become sullen and moody - it will always damage your relationship. If you feel hurt, describe to your partner how their behaviour has made you feel, without blaming or judging them in any way. Realise that they must be hurting as well to have behaved in this way. By moving towards them, rather than withdrawing, you have vastly increased the chances of finding resolution. Providing that this is done sensitively, such communication helps us to know when we have hurt somebody - often we are completely unaware we have done so!
If your partner uses moodiness to communicate, then appreciate that they are feeling hurt or insecure and try to find out how they are feeling. It is at the level of feelings that all emotional healing occurs.
okeyy , actually seharian nie aku asyik moody . aku pun tak tahu kenapa , aku rase aku terlalu banyak fikir pasal daniel . yelaaa , at the first place . aku memang tak suke daniel keje , i don't agreed with that ! dia ade rupe , and sebenarnye dia pandai tapi dia malas belajar . u know what , dia cakap dia tak ade mood nak belajar . haaiiissyyyoooo , bie bie . u nie memang pelik . aku siap fikir nak clash dohh :'( antara sebab-sebabnye adalah :-
- aku takot dia curang
- i don't want to fell disappointed later
- sebab , yela die keje kat HKL di tengah tengah kota raya . dalam sehari berapa ramai perempuan datang and kenyit mate and dia senyum and kalau perempuan tu pun ade hati macam mane ? and kalau dia mintak nombor phone .... AKU ? oouuhhh nnoooooooo !
- aanndd , mama aku orang kuat hkl bahagian darah , tapi office mama aku bukan kat situ laa . cume mama aku ade related dengan hkl so dia agak selalu lah kot datang hkl . kalau dorang terserempak macam mane ? aku bukan ape , haish malas malas -_-'